The problem with life is that we are always looking for problems. I mean, imagine if we looked for solutions instead of problems? See what I mean. Flip the equation around, just like a maths problem. When you are dividing your brain goes into a tail spin but if you flip it around to a multiplication sum suddenly everything goes click, click into place.
Sometimes we need to flip it around in our head space and instead of looking for problems starting looking for solutions.
I think this is particularly true of people who have been through a lot in life. It’s kind of like this expectation that life is going to be continually dumping on them, so they have this expectation of problems and chaos instead of an expectation of solutions and order.
When I reflect back that was me. I was depressed. Life was out of control and I felt like a helpless victim of life…I felt like road kill on the highway of life.
Then one day while I was on a three day allocation of antidepressant medication I had some time out…time enough to consider my life and in that time out I made some pretty huge life decisions. One of those was to stop blaming others for my life and my situations and to start to take personal responsibility for my life choices. Woah… that was a powerful equation flipper right there!
Then I started to be solutions-focussed. I took back my personal power – what an amazing feeling that is, to be able to confidently state ‘I created this mess and therefore I have the power to uncreate it.’
Believe me…there is no mess too big, too hard, that it can’t be deconstructed with the right mindset, negotiation and effort. But first it requires commitment to change.
So if your life currently sucks, for whatever reason, and you are seeing all the problems and feeling helpless and hopeless, I want you to know that doesn’t have to be your destiny. That is why I started the Fat Girls Can Dance Project – to help people realise that there is no life situation that cannot be turned around.