Life is a Mystery by Hayley Solich

A reflection on the cycle of life…

We take our first steps, aided

Our tiny fingers curled in the palm of a larger guiding hand

We are fearless in our quest for indepence and they are the centre of our world

As we enter our primary years

We become less comfortable with the hand holding

Eager to find our own way of doing things we keep them around for our moments of fear

Then we enter our higher school years

We wouldn’t dream of holding the hand of those who have lovingly guided us

We demand to do things our own way, pushing them to the side, but occasionally seeking their guidance

Then after we have tasted indepence and found a mate, the birth of our own children causes us to hold their hand again, then for us to hold another’s

After squeezing the life out of our parent’s in childbirth, our large hands are now curling around the palm of our own little one

And we are encouraging them to gain their indepence

And so the process revolves until we are old

And if we are lucky, our frail wrinkly hand is now grasping the smooth, strong, young hand of our grandchild

And we must learn again how to be happy to be dependent

The Golden Days…

I often ponder about life…it just seems to whizz past.  The Golden Days was written as a reflection about growing older as I was working through some grief I felt for the loss of my youth.

I remember when Passion rushed through my blood

When every second was spent

In youthful exhibition of my creative flow

Why did those days have to go?

I remember when I could not be contained

I was the spark starting the raging fire

The glitter in the diamond

The glow in the lamp

Why did my style life cramp?

I remember when there were no boundaries

No limits upon my thinking

I could leave in a minute’s notice

Extending into an horizon so expansive

Why did life become so expensive?

I remember

But I wonder if it is only with the glazed eyes of age

Muting the pain, the hurt and the shame

And playing a movie so surreal

Of the Golden Days

That my mind deceivingly now plays?

Going beyond you know to where you want to go!

Sometimes we allow invisible barriers to hold us back.

I know when I was working as a public servant for the Western Australian government I had a huge hang up about the fact that I didn’t possess any formal qualifications.  I had a Diploma of Dance, which meant nothing other than that I was capable of hard work, self-discipline, very creative and able to stick out a 2 year full-time program.  I saw my lack of “business” qualifications as a reason why I couldn’t apply for some jobs or be considered worthy of doing them.

Fortunately for me I also had an internal driver that just kept pushing me to volunteer for projects and go the extra mile to get the job done on time and effectively.  Coupled with an amazing boss at the WA Police, I was given tremendous opportunities and was able to shine in these roles.

There is something completely liberating about stepping out of the boat, crossing over that invisible barrier, to embrace a vision.

In 2005, in the company of two amazing women, I co-founded Pearls Women’s Magazine.  We were three mums with 11 children between us.  We had little capital to invest – in fact, I had NO capital to invest.  With four children, living in the granny flat at my in-laws (and that’s a whole separate post!), I couldn’t even afford to purchase the programs we needed so that I could work from home.

However, we made a commitment to make it happen, to step across the invisible barrier that says, “You can’t, you’re not qualified, you’re going to fail” to embrace the realm of possibility.

Dr Jim Rohn puts it like this, “Why not you? Why not now? Why do good things have to happen to other people?”

The extraordinary thing is that we achieved our dream of getting that magazine to the market place and the response was overwhelming.  If we hadn’t even sold a single copy (and we distributed approx 5,000 copies of the first edition), then the fact that we created a professional standard 116 page full colour gloss magazine literally had people’s jaws dropping.  After all, we were just three mums and none of us prior to the project had worked in media, knew how to use Adobe Indesign, had ever interviewed a person in our lives!

Suffice to say, this was a defining moment for me.  I resigned from the Team after the first edition due to family pressures but I learned so much through this experience about myself and about life.  I learned that you can if you want to and you’re willing to pay the price for your dreams.  I learned that teams go through a process – Forming, Storming, Norming, then Performing.  I learned that I can pick up any computer program within a quick amount of time if I apply myself and am willing to go through a process of experiential learning.  I learned that women are fascinating, amazing, incredibly resourceful creatures with so many often overlooked and unheard inspirational stories to share.

Out of that experience the vision for Women Can International Inc was birthed and out of Women Can International Inc, Women Can TV is finding it’s wings.

We know where we are headed and we want to take as many as possible along with us on the journey.  The question is, “You can, but will you join us by making the decision to cross over whatever invisible line there is in your life that is holding you back from getting to where you want to go?”

If you’d like to know more about our coaching services, fill out our contact form today.  As June’s husband (my life coach) would say, “When now would you like to take that step?”